{"id":1494,"date":"2016-04-02T13:39:17","date_gmt":"2016-04-02T13:39:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?p=1494"},"modified":"2016-04-02T13:39:31","modified_gmt":"2016-04-02T13:39:31","slug":"recompensa-alimentara-in-educarea-copilului","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?p=1494","title":{"rendered":"Recompensa alimentar\u0103 \u00een educarea copilului"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Din dorin\u0163a de a-l atrage pe copil \u00een diferite activit\u0103\u0163i, de multe ori \u00eei oferim recompense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Oferirea unor recompense este \u015fi un mod de manipulare ca acesta s\u0103 fac\u0103 ceea ce noi ne dorim, dar \u015fi de \u201c\u015fantaj\u201d \u2013 \u201cnu ie\u015fi afar\u0103 dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0163i faci temele\u201d, \u201cdac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i faci curat \u00een camer\u0103, \u00ee\u015fi dau o pr\u0103jitur\u0103\u201d. Oferirea de recompense se dovede\u015fte uneori a fi \u015fi o cale comod\u0103 \u015fi \u201crapid\u0103\u201d de a ob\u0163ine rezultatul dorit la un moment dat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">De\u015fi s-au scris multe c\u0103rti \u015fi articole pe aceast\u0103 tem\u0103 \u2013 at\u00e2t pro c\u00e2t \u015fi contra recompenselor \u015fi a motiva\u0163iei extrinseci prin recompens\u0103 \u2013 nu inten\u0163ionez cu acest articol s\u0103 condamn sau s\u0103 laud acet tip motivare prin recompens\u0103, ci doar s\u0103 atrag aten\u0163ia asupra pericolelor recompenselor alimentare (\u00een special).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Oferirea unor recompense alimentare este foarte periculoas\u0103. Copilul va integra acest obicei \u015fi va \u00eenva\u0163a s\u0103 se autorecompenseze \u00een acest fel atunci c\u00e2nd are o reu\u015fit\u0103, dar exist\u0103 riscul s\u0103 se \u201cautorecompenseze\u201d cu \u201co ciocol\u0103\u0163ic\u0103, o pr\u0103jituric\u0103\u201d \u015fi atunci c\u00e2nd are un e\u015fec pentru a-\u015fi \u201c\u00eendulci ziua\u201d, pentru c\u0103 \u201cmerit\u0103 ceva bun pentru efortul depus, indiferent de rezultat\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce copilul cre\u015fte exist\u0103 riscul ca atunci c\u00e2nd se simte r\u0103u, c\u00e2nd este trist, dezam\u0103git s\u0103 se refugieze \u00een m\u00e2ncare pentru a c\u0103p\u0103ta o stare de bine, stare pe care o asociaz\u0103 \u2013 mai mult sau mai pu\u0163in con\u015ftient\u00a0 \u2013 cu starea de bine resim\u0163it\u0103 \u00een copil\u0103rie atunci c\u00e2nd era recompensat pentru un anumit lucru cu \u201cceva dulce\u201d, iar refugiul \u00een m\u00e2ncare poate deveni un pericol real.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Oferirea de recompense alimentare poate duce la obezitate (\u015fi s\u0103 nu uit\u0103m de obezitatea infantil\u0103), la instalarea bulimiei care duce la declan\u015farea \u00een serie \u015fi a altor afec\u0163iuni ale aparatului digestiv, ale inimii, dar \u015fi la depresie sau dezvoltarea unor dependen\u0163e.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">De\u015fi sunt situa\u0163ii \u00een care apel\u0103m la motiva\u0163ia extrinsec\u0103 oferind stelu\u0163e, buline colorate este bine s\u0103 \u00eencepem s\u0103 educ\u0103m copilul \u00een spiritul motiva\u0163iei intrinseci (a st\u0103rii de bine pe care ne-o d\u0103 faptul c\u0103 a f\u0103cut curat \u00een camer\u0103 \u015fi a fost l\u0103udat \u2013 de exemplu).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">De\u015fi este nevoie de mai mult timp \u015fi implicare pentru a dezvolta un tip de motiva\u0163ie intrinsec\u0103 la copil, este de preferat ca \u00een cazul \u00een care apel\u0103m pentru o perioad\u0103 de timp la recompense acestea s\u0103 fie de tip recompens\u0103 social\u0103 (laud\u0103, apreciere) sau \u00een activit\u0103\u0163i favorite (mers \u00een parc, jocul la calculator pentru 30 de minute, mers la film) \u00een defavoarea recompenselor materiale \u2013 bani, juc\u0103rii, dulciuri.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00cen tot ceea ce am spus mai sus m-am referit \u00een special la educarea \u00een familie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00cen ceea ce priveste \u015fcoala, notele \u015fi calificativele ob\u0163inute \u00een cadrul institu\u0163iei de \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103m\u00e2nt sunt \u015fi ele o recompens\u0103, dar, de\u015fi la prima vedere \u00eencurajeaz\u0103 o motivare extrinsec\u0103, faptul c\u0103 acel copil a \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at \u015fi a luat o not\u0103 mare, duce la primirea unor aprecieri \u015fi laude verbale din partea celorlal\u0163i, fapt care \u00eel face s\u0103 se simt\u0103 valorizat (pentru seriozitate, implicare, timpul acordat \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103rii), caz \u00een care vorbim de o recompens\u0103 pozitiv\u0103, care va duce la \u00eencurajarea motiv\u0103rii intrinseci, stimul\u00e2nd dezvoltarea unui tip de g\u00e2ndire de genul \u201c\u00eenv\u0103\u0163, sunt apreciat, voi putea s\u0103 \u00eemi aleg orice profesie \u00een viitor, voi fi independent \u015fi voi face ceea ce \u00eemi place\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u015ei \u00een cazul performan\u0163elor \u015fcolare vom evita lucruri de genul \u201cPoftim cea mai mare felie de pr\u0103jitur\u0103 pentru c\u0103 ai luat o not\u0103 bun\u0103\u201d sau \u201cHai s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i cump\u0103r o tablet\u0103 nou\u0103\u201d, ci mai degrab\u0103 o \u00eembr\u0103\u0163i\u015fare, apreciere verbal\u0103, valorizare prin gesturi \u015fi cuvinte. Pentru c\u0103 g\u00e2ndurile, gesturile \u015fi emo\u0163iile sunt hr\u0103nitoare \u015fi poten\u0163atoare pe termen lung.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">P\u00e2n\u0103 data viitoare ave\u021bi grij\u0103 de voi \u015fi de copilul vostru!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0Cu drag,<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?page_id=2\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Iulia Pasarin, psiholog clinician si psihoterapeut<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>0728.967.011<\/p>\n<p>Articol publicat si pe <a href=\"http:\/\/smartandhappychild.ro\/recompensa-alimentara-educarea-copilului\/\" target=\"_blank\">Smartandhappychild.ro <\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Din dorin\u0163a de a-l atrage pe copil \u00een diferite activit\u0103\u0163i, de multe ori \u00eei oferim recompense. Oferirea unor recompense este \u015fi un mod de manipulare ca acesta s\u0103 fac\u0103 ceea ce noi ne dorim, dar \u015fi de \u201c\u015fantaj\u201d \u2013 \u201cnu ie\u015fi afar\u0103 dac\u0103 nu \u00ee\u0163i faci temele\u201d, \u201cdac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i faci curat \u00een camer\u0103, \u00ee\u015fi dau &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1495,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[429,85,92,428],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1494"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1494"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1494\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1497,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1494\/revisions\/1497"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1495"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1494"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1494"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1494"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}