{"id":152,"date":"2015-03-03T15:51:13","date_gmt":"2015-03-03T15:51:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?p=152"},"modified":"2017-09-30T16:51:32","modified_gmt":"2017-09-30T16:51:32","slug":"copiii-si-anxietatea-de-separe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?p=152","title":{"rendered":"Copiii \u015fi anxietatea de separare"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Este ceva natural \u015fi normal ca micu\u0163ul t\u0103u s\u0103 se aga\u0163e de tine, s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103, s\u0103 fie nelini\u015ftit atunci c\u00e2nd e\u015fti nevoit s\u0103 pleci de l\u00e2ng\u0103 el \u015fi nu mai e\u015fti \u00een raza lui vizual\u0103. Teama de a r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu o persoan\u0103 mai pu\u0163in familiar\u0103, de a-\u015fi lua la revedere, de a se desp\u0103r\u0163ii de p\u0103rin\u0163i sau de adul\u0163ii foarte apropia\u0163i cu care este obi\u015fnuit este normal\u0103 la copiii mici p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een jurul v\u00e2rstei de 3 ani.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u00centre normalitate \u015fi anxietatea de separare<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Este normal ca micu\u0163ul t\u0103u s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd pleci \u015fi nu te mai vede \u00een preajma lui, dar apoi aten\u0163ia lui se \u00eendrept\u0103 c\u0103tre persoana care \u00eel supravegheaz\u0103 (bon\u0103 sau alt adult) \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 se joace, s\u0103 se implice \u00een alte activit\u0103\u0163i.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Nu este normal \u015fi vorbim despre simptomele anxiet\u0103\u0163ii de separare atunci c\u00e2nd:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Teama copilului nu scade \u00een intensitate nici dup\u0103 10 \u2013 15 minute dup\u0103 ei plecat<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Copilul se aga\u0163\u0103 cu disperare de mama sau de adutul de care este puternic ata\u015fat \u015fi face crize de pl\u00e2ns<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Copilul are manifest\u0103ri somatice \u015fi fiziologice precum st\u0103ri de grea\u0163\u0103, st\u0103ri de vom\u0103, dureri de burt\u0103, diaree, transpir\u0103, tremur\u0103<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Apar co\u015fmaruri noaptea \u015fi copilul chiar se treze\u015fte speriat<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Nu mai vrea s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la gr\u0103dini\u0163\u0103, \u015fcoal\u0103, petreceri cu al\u0163i copii (\u00een cazul refuzului de a merge la \u015fcoal\u0103 este nevoie s\u0103 ne asigur\u0103m c\u0103 nu este vorba de anxietate \u015fcolar\u0103, iar acest lucru se poate face prin stabilirea diagnosticului diferen\u0163ial de c\u0103tre un psiholog \u00een urma unor discu\u0163ii cu micu\u0163ul)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Copilul nu vrea s\u0103 se despart\u0103 de p\u0103rin\u0163i pentru c\u0103 se teme s\u0103 nu se \u00eent\u00e2mple ceva r\u0103u cu ace\u015ftia sau lui s\u0103 nu \u00eei fie r\u0103u<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Micu\u0163ul se teme c\u0103 p\u0103rin\u0163ii nu se mai \u00eentorc (de aceea nu trebuie s\u0103 \u00eei spune\u0163i niciodat\u0103 copilului c\u0103 \u201edac\u0103 m\u0103 superi, nu mai vin acas\u0103\u201d, \u201edac\u0103 nu faci acest lucru, m\u0103 sup\u0103r \u015fi plec\u201d pentru c\u0103 \u00een sufle\u0163ul micu\u0163ului t\u0103u va lua na\u015ftere \u015fi va cre\u015fte teama de abandon)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">C\u00e2nd teama este foarte mare copilul poate dezvolta chiar un atac de panic\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<strong>Elemente esentiale in diagnosticarea tulburarii de anxietate de separare la copii si adolescenti:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">anxietate marcanta de a nu ramane singur, fara persoana de atasament si de a iesii din casa singur,<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span lang=\"RO\" style=\"color: #000000; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif'; font-size: 12pt;\">copiii nu pleaca singuri dintr-o camera in alta si prezinta un comportament de &#8220;agatare&#8221;, stand foarte aproape de parinti, devenind \u201eumbra\u201d parintelui prin casa sau solicita ca cineva sa il insoteasca in alta camera atunci cand are nevoie<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">ezitarea sau refuzul de a merge la culcare fara o persoana apropiata sau sa doarma in afara casei \u2013 copiii nu pleaca in excursii, peste noapte merg si \u201einvadeaza\u201d patul parintilor<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">anxietatea depaseste nivelul firesc pentru etapa in care se afla copilul<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">disconfort excesiv cand se afla in afara casei sau sunt separati de persoanele de atasament sau cand anticipeaza ca urmeaza sa fie separate de aceste persoane sau de casa<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">ingrijorare crescuta cu privire la starea de sanatate sau la posibilul deces\u00a0 al persoanelor fata decre sunt atasati (in special atunci cand nu se afla in prezenta lor, simtind nevoia sa stie unde se afla si sa tina permanent legatura cu ele)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span lang=\"RO\" style=\"color: #000000; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif'; font-size: 12pt;\"><em><strong>somatizari:<\/strong> <\/em>cefalele, acuze adominale, grata varsaturi<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span lang=\"RO\" style=\"color: #000000; font-family: 'Times New Roman','serif'; font-size: 12pt;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">copiii care sufera de tulburare de anxietate de separare sunt descrisi ca fiind obositori, intruzivi, cer atentie peramanenta<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Elemente asociate in diagnosticarea tulburarii de separare la copii:<\/strong> <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Retragere sociala,<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Apatie,<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Tristete,<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dificultati de concentrare (in a-si face temele),<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Frica de animale, monstri, intuneric, hoti,<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Rrefuz scolar, urmat de probleme academice si de izolare sociala,<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Atunci cand sunt foarte suparati ca au fost despartiti de presoana de atasament copiii pot sa devina agresivi.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00cen aceast\u0103 siuta\u0163ie \u00een care copilului \u00eei este greu s\u0103 se despart\u0103 de tine NU este indicat s\u0103:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Pleci pe furi\u015f<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Nu \u00eel brusca nici m\u0103car verbal \u00eenainte s\u0103 pleca\u0163i \u00een speran\u0163a c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eel superi nu va mai pl\u00e2nge dup\u0103 tine<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">S\u0103 \u00eel speria spun\u00e2ndu-i c\u0103 dac\u0103 pl\u00e2nge, nu v\u0103 mai \u00eentoarce\u0163i<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">S\u0103 te \u00eentoarce din drum (acest lucru \u00eei \u00eent\u0103re\u015fte comportamentul nedorit)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Nu \u00eei spune pove\u015fti care au ca subiect abandonarea copiilor (puilor de anim\u0103lu\u0163e) de c\u0103tre p\u0103rin\u0163i pentru c\u0103 ve\u0163i m\u0103rii teama de abandon a copilului \u015fi acesta va deveni anxios \u015fi nesigur pe el \u015fi cu o slab\u0103 \u00eencredere \u00een ceilal\u0163i<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Ce este indicat s\u0103 faci \u00een cazul \u00een care copilul t\u0103u se desparte de tine cu dificultate:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">S\u0103 te joci cu el \u015fi atunci c\u00e2nd copilul este mai m\u0103ricel \u015fi pute\u0163i comunica s\u0103 \u00eei spui c\u0103 5 minute pleci \u00een alt\u0103 camer\u0103, iar apoi s\u0103 cre\u015fte\u0163i durata pentru care lipse\u015fti la 10 minute, 15 minute \u015fi a\u015fa mai departe<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">S\u0103 vorbe\u015fti cu el \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eei spui c\u0103 \u00eel iube\u015fti \u015fi imediat ce termini treaba pe care o ai, te vei \u00eentoarce la el<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Sa crea\u0163i un ritual de \u201ela revedere\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">S\u0103 \u00eel la\u015fi \u00een compania juc\u0103riilor preferate<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">S\u0103 nu \u00eel cer\u0163i \u00eenainte de plecare \u015fi s\u0103 \u00eel la\u015fi \u00eentr-o atmosfera securizant\u0103, lini\u015ftit\u0103, confortabil\u0103 din puct de vedere fizic \u015fi emo\u0163ional<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00cen cazul copilului cu v\u00e2rsta de 5-6 ani \u00eei pute\u0163i spune c\u0103 ve\u0163i fi bine \u015fi c\u0103 el va fi bine \u2013 pentru c\u0103 una din temerile acestor copii este s\u0103 nu pa\u0163easc\u0103 ceva sau p\u0103rin\u0163ilor s\u0103 nu li se \u00eent\u0103mple ceva \u0103u (a\u015fa cum am men\u0163ionat \u015fi mai sus)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dac\u0103 a\u0163i \u00eencercat toate posibilit\u0103\u0163ile \u015fi nu reu\u015fiti s\u0103 rezolva\u0163i aceast\u0103 problem\u0103 legat\u0103 de anxietatea de separare, nu ezita\u0163i s\u0103 merge\u0163i la un psihoterapeut. Lucr\u00e2nd \u00eempreun\u0103 \u015fansele de a avea un copil independent, cu un un tip de ata\u015fament s\u0103natos, securizant, cu o stim\u0103 de sine crescut\u0103, independen\u0163\u0103 \u00een g\u00e2ndire \u015fi ac\u0163iunile pe care le \u00eentreprinde vor cre\u015fte.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u00cen loc de concluzii<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">A\u015fadar, teama \u015fi agita\u0163ia copilului \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu plecarea unuia sau ambilor p\u0103rin\u0163i (uneori poate fi vorba de bunici sau orice adult de care copilul este puternic ata\u015fat) este normal\u0103. Nu este \u00eens\u0103 normal\u0103 grija intens\u0103 porvocat\u0103 de desp\u0103r\u0163irea de adul\u0163ii din familie de care copilul este foarte ata\u015fat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Cu grij\u0103, tact, r\u0103bdare \u015fi dragoste vei reu\u015fi s\u0103 construie\u015fti o leg\u0103tur\u0103 s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 \u015fi \u00eentre tine, copilul t\u0103u \u015fi cei cu care acesta vine \u00een contact \u015fi s\u0103 ai un copil independent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Copilul tau se confrunta cu aceasta dificultate? Po\u0163i face o programare pentru o consulta\u0163ie \u015fi \u00eempreun\u0103 \u00eel vom putea ajuta s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103, s\u0103 controleze \u015fi s\u0103 dep\u0103\u015feasc\u0103 aceast\u0103 stare de nesiguran\u0163\u0103 \u015fi inconfort fizic \u015fi psihic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Iulia P\u0103s\u0103rin<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">psiholog clinician \u015fi psihoterapeut integrativ<\/span><\/p>\n<p>0728.967.011, <a href=\"mailto:iulia.pasarin@yahoo.com\">iulia.pasarin@yahoo.com<\/a>, <a href=\"mailto:contact@iuliapasarin.ro\">contact@iuliapasarin.ro<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Este ceva natural \u015fi normal ca micu\u0163ul t\u0103u s\u0103 se aga\u0163e de tine, s\u0103 pl\u00e2ng\u0103, s\u0103 fie nelini\u015ftit atunci c\u00e2nd e\u015fti nevoit s\u0103 pleci de l\u00e2ng\u0103 el \u015fi nu mai e\u015fti \u00een raza lui vizual\u0103. Teama de a r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu o persoan\u0103 mai pu\u0163in familiar\u0103, de a-\u015fi lua la revedere, de a se desp\u0103r\u0163ii de &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":153,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[62,64,18,63,26,20],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/152"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=152"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/152\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2443,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/152\/revisions\/2443"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/153"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=152"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=152"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=152"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}