{"id":4748,"date":"2025-04-27T21:44:23","date_gmt":"2025-04-27T21:44:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?p=4748"},"modified":"2025-04-27T21:44:23","modified_gmt":"2025-04-27T21:44:23","slug":"teama-de-schimbare-intre-amanare-frica-si-renastere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/?p=4748","title":{"rendered":"TEAMA DE SCHIMBARE \u2013 \u00ceNTRE AM\u00c2NARE, FRIC\u0102 \u0218I RENA\u0218TERE"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>C\u00e2nd vrei s\u0103 mergi la psihoterapie \u0219i ceva te opre\u0219te&#8230;<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Sunt momente \u00eenc\u0103rcate de luciditate dureroas\u0103. Momente \u00een care sim\u021bi ad\u00e2nc c\u0103 <strong>nu mai po\u021bi<\/strong> r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00een locul \u00een care ai supravie\u021buit, dar n-ai tr\u0103it cu adev\u0103rat. Ani \u00eentregi, poate, ai jucat roluri pentru al\u021bii, sau ai stat \u00eentr-o lume a propriilor frici.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u0218i totu\u0219i&#8230; chiar \u0219i cu aceast\u0103 luciditate, <strong>teama<\/strong> de schimbare poate fi uria\u0219\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Ce este, de fapt, teama de schimbare?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Teama de schimbare nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 doar frica de necunoscut. De multe ori, ea ascunde r\u0103d\u0103cini mult mai ad\u00e2nci:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Frica de a nu mai \u0219ti cine e\u0219ti<\/strong> dac\u0103 nu mai ai problema sau suferin\u021ba care te definea.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Frica de libertate.<\/strong> Dac\u0103 nu mai ai scuze, va trebui s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i iei responsabilitatea pentru propria via\u0163\u0103.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Frica de succes.<\/strong> Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i aminte\u015fti cine e\u015fti, cum vei face fa\u021b\u0103 propriei tale puteri?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Frica de vid.<\/strong> Dac\u0103 dispar vechile frici, ce vei pune \u00een locul lor?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Cum ra\u021bionaliz\u0103m teama de schimbare?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Rareori spunem &#8220;mi-e fric\u0103 s\u0103 schimb ceva&#8221;. De cele mai multe ori, folosim <strong>pretexte subtile<\/strong> pentru a r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00een zona de confort:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>&#8220;Nu am timp acum.&#8221;<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>&#8220;Nu am bani acum.&#8221;<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>&#8220;Nu am g\u0103sit terapeutul potrivit.&#8221;<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>&#8220;Poate trece de la sine.&#8221;<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Aceste explica\u021bii par reale, \u00een\u021belepte, dar deseori ele sunt <strong>mecanisme de protec\u021bie<\/strong> fa\u021b\u0103 de frica adev\u0103rat\u0103: <strong>frica de a ne schimba cu adev\u0103rat.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>A\u0219teptarea miracolelor externe<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Uneori, \u00een interiorul nostru, apare o speran\u021b\u0103 infantilizant\u0103:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>&#8220;Poate \u00eentr-o zi m\u0103 voi trezi altfel. F\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 fie nevoie s\u0103 trec prin durere sau confruntare.&#8221;<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Aceast\u0103 speran\u021b\u0103 este de fapt <strong>refuzul de a asuma propria transformare<\/strong>. Dorin\u021ba ca altcineva, sau timpul, sau soarta, s\u0103 rezolve ceea ce de fapt doar noi putem \u00eemp\u0103ca \u00een noi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Cauze ad\u00e2nci ale temerii de schimbare<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Identificarea cu suferin\u021ba<\/strong><\/span>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dac\u0103 pierzi durerea, cine mai e\u0219ti?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Frica de necunoscut<\/strong><\/span>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Mintea prefer\u0103 un disconfort cunoscut \u00een locul unui nou teritoriu nesigur.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Vinov\u0103\u021bie incon\u0219tient\u0103<\/strong><\/span>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">A tr\u0103i pe deplin poate fi perceput incon\u0219tient ca o tr\u0103dare a celor care nu \u0219i-au permis s\u0103 o fac\u0103.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Frica de e\u0219ec \u0219i frica de succes<\/strong><\/span>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Dou\u0103 extreme care paralizeaz\u0103 adesea drumul.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Clarificare esen\u021bial\u0103: A merge la terapie nu este despre &#8220;a te repara&#8221;.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Este despre <strong>a te \u00eent\u00e2lni cu tine \u00eens\u0103\u0163i\/\u00eensu\u0163i<\/strong>, dincolo de frici \u0219i roluri. Este despre <strong>a recupera fragmentele pierdute<\/strong> ale sinelui. Este despre <strong>a-\u021bi permite s\u0103 exi\u0219ti<\/strong>, cu toate ale tale.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Schimbarea real\u0103 cere curaj, nu absen\u021ba fricii<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Nu a\u0219tepta s\u0103 dispar\u0103 frica. Ia frica de m\u00e2n\u0103 \u0219i mergi oricum.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Schimbarea cere:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Bl\u00e2nde\u021be fa\u021b\u0103 de tine.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Permisiunea de a fi imperfect.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Curajul de a \u00eenc\u0103lca vechile promisiuni f\u0103cute fricii.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u00centreb\u0103ri pentru reflec\u021bie:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>&#8220;Ce pierd am\u00e2n\u00e2nd s\u0103 m\u0103 aleg pe mine?&#8221;<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>&#8220;Ce poveste \u00eemi spun pentru a justifica r\u0103m\u00e2nerea \u00een zon\u0103 de confort?&#8221;<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><em>&#8220;Dac\u0103 nu a\u0219 a\u0219tepta salvare din exterior, ce pas a\u0219 putea face chiar azi?&#8221;<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u00cencheiere bl\u00e2nd\u0103<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Teama de schimbare este, paradoxal, semnul c\u0103 <strong>e\u0219ti gata<\/strong>. Gata s\u0103 te vezi, s\u0103 te recuno\u0219ti, s\u0103 rena\u0219ti.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Nu exist\u0103 reset magic. Exist\u0103 curaj, lacrimi, pa\u0219i mici, re\u00eentregire. Exist\u0103 drumul t\u0103u, unic, adev\u0103rat.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>\u0218i e\u0219ti mai preg\u0103tit\/\u0103 dec\u00e2t crezi.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Fii bl\u00e2nd\/\u0103 cu tine \u015fi onoreaz\u0103-\u0163i drumul!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Yuliana E. P\u0103s\u0103rin<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>C\u00e2nd vrei s\u0103 mergi la psihoterapie \u0219i ceva te opre\u0219te&#8230; Sunt momente \u00eenc\u0103rcate de luciditate dureroas\u0103. Momente \u00een care sim\u021bi ad\u00e2nc c\u0103 nu mai po\u021bi r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00een locul \u00een care ai supravie\u021buit, dar n-ai tr\u0103it cu adev\u0103rat. Ani \u00eentregi, poate, ai jucat roluri pentru al\u021bii, sau ai stat \u00eentr-o lume a propriilor frici. \u0218i totu\u0219i&#8230; &hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4749,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[793,792,79],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4748"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4748"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4748\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4750,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4748\/revisions\/4750"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4749"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4748"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4748"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/iuliapasarin.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4748"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}